From last night’s (and the first) episode of “The Bachelor in Paris“:
The women start hugging goodbye. Allie is terribly upset. She can’t believe he chose some of those women over her — she’s dedicated her life to her career and he didn’t choose that, just like every guy she knows. Outside with the other rejected women, she laments that only reason she came on the show was because conventional methods weren’t working. She’s tried Internet dating, wine dating, dating services — she’s tried it all and has gotten nothing. She says she told Travis she was ready to get the reproductive phase of her life going, because the only reason to get married is to have kids. Ali gently tells her that’s her opinion but Allie is adamant. Travis is in his 30s, therefore he should be ready to proceed with that part of his life. What is he waiting for? Ali reports that Allie kept saying her eggs are old and her clock is ticking, and notes that one really doesn’t want to tell a guy that. Not getting a rose was the worst thing to happen for Allie.
Allie goes off in search of Travis. Angry and hurt, she challenges him to be straight up and tell her why didn’t he choose her — is she too short, her chest too small? Awkwardly, he says the truth is, he isn’t ready to reproduce like she is — he’s not looking for that right now. The others huddled outside in the cold gape at the information that Allie told Travis she wanted “to reproduce.” Allie accuses him of playing around because he doesn’t want reproduction. Travis replies that she doesn’t know him. Allie argues back that he just said he doesn’t want her to be around because he doesn’t want to reproduce, yet he’s on a dating show looking for a partner. Travis says he doesn’t want to put the cart before the horse and in frustration Allie storms off. She thinks she should stop dating, perhaps join a convent. She says he’s like every other “stupid doctor” she knows — intimidated by a professional woman.
I feel sorry for Allie. I really do. She bought into feminism’s big lie: that women can “have it all.” The brutal truth is that it is extremely difficult for a professional woman to pursue/balance a career and marriage/motherhood. Some can do it, and to those who can my hat is off to them. But for most professional women, they must eventually choose between doing their job well (by attempting to reach the heights of their respective professions) or having/raising children.
Allie chose to dedicate her life to a career; but now she is ready to have children, and she deeply resents the fact that she can’t just snap her fingers and make it happen. I also strongly suspect that her “rewarding career” has left her feeling empty, and asking “Is this all there is to life?”
Women are meant to be mothers, and no amount of leftist propaganda can or ever will change this fact of nature.
Finally, dear Allie, there is a reason Travis has no incentive to reproduce: women are (most likely) all too willing to give him what he wants without any strings attached.
And that bring us to another big lie of the feminist movement (and the sexual revolution): that birth control empowers women. It doesn’t. Birth control facilitates the objectification of women, allowing them to be used as a vehicle for man’s pleasure.
Women deserve better than that. Much better
Update: The always interesting Amber–of the “Prettier Than Napoleon” blog–takes issue with my post. I’ve responded in the comments section to her post.